2.05.2009

The One That Got Away

am not feeling good and i cant make a good post either (dang this headache!) so this is a repost. i actually posted this already way back but i deleted it. so now, since the time is so apt, i want to share this again (but this time it wont get deleted. ahehe)

this was an article i heard from John in EPP... it speaks of a certain love scenario that many of us might have been into already.

here goes..

The One That Got Away
In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people.
Ones with whom you shared something special,
ones who will always mean something. There's
the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with... and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that
person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone,
finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie
merely in the other person. I can actually argue
that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part,
has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do
with you being ready to settle down and commit to
someone in a way that goes beyond the little
niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even
realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in
that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're
with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become
big unconsequentials become dealbreakers
simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's
not that you and the person you're with are no
good it's just that it's not yet right, and little things
become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And
when this happens you'll be
ready to settle down with someone. He or she
may not be the most perfect, they might not be the
brightest star of romance to ever have burned in
your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll
work because it's the right time and you'll make it
work. And it'll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making
sense of things, and you find
yourself to be a different person. Things are
different, your approach is different, you finally
understand who you are and what you want, and
you've become ready because the time has truly
arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this
day will come. Hopefully you're single but you
could be in a long-term relationship, you could be
married with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you
know is that you've changed, and for some
reason, the one that got away, is the first person
you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll
wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll
wonder, "What if we were together now, with me
as I am and not as I was?"

That's what the one that got away is. The
biggest "What if?" you'll have in
your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact
that the one that got
away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy
tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to
the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough
to realize that you're already with the one you're
with and this is just another test of your
commitment, one which will just strengthen your
marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think
about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's
never nice to live with a "might have been," but it
happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who's
already married. In which case it's the same thing.
You just have to accept and know that your
memories of that person will probably bring a nice
little smile to your lips in the future when you're old
and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different.
What do you do if it's
not yet too late?

Simple...find him, find her. Because the very
existence of a "one that got
away" means that you'll always wonder, what if
you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it
doesn't matter if you've
dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be
surprised, you just might be "the one that got
away" as well for the person who is your "the one
that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't
make a difference. If the
timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place
somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a
great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to
someone,

"Hey you, you're the one that ALMOST got away."

inkdrop:
i dunno. but the most important thing for me is love itself. there would be no problem when the right time comes and youre both still single and you're still in love. but what if that time comes - when you're finally ready - you already fall out of love? hay. love has many complexities, and that makes love beautiful.
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8 comments:

=supergulaman=

mmhhh..."Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that
person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose."

tama yan..nanjan ang risks ng pag-ibig..pero ganun talaga...hindi mo makokontrol ang mga bagay-bagay ng ayon sa iyong kagustuhan... :)

MarcoPaolo

all about marriage... whew!!!

dapat handa parati... handa sa lahat ng mangyayari... expect the unexpected ika nga... :)

Marlon

WOw! this is a great article.

"the one that got away"...

This is true, no matter how we'd like to believe, sometimes love ain't enough. Do you know the song WHAT IF? by babyface? it's like this one, it's about those what might have been? what could have been. In the future, it's that one thing you'll smile about.

jmadz

naiiyak naman ako dito...

haaaay ang ganda...

well, timing or not, if meant para sayo darating at darating yun. Just see the delay as something to prepare you for the "first day of the rest of your life". The first day of true love, happiness and living the destiny which was meant for you....

Ganda talaga. God bless! =)

jhosel

supergulaman: tama tama, love is unpredictable ika nga. which leads dun sa sinabi ni..

marcopaolo: yea. we can never know what to expect.

hehe..

marlon: aheks. im glad you like the article. i super love it too especially nung una ko xiang mabasa. yea. what if. minsan talaga darating tayo sa point kung saan we'll wonder kung "pano kaya kung". may times na nahahabol pa at nasasagutan ang what ifs. pero minsan mananatiling question na lng ito.

jmadz: salamat salamat. i believe in destiny too. thank you sa pag-iwan ng chocolate cake kea lang sana nag-iwan ka din ng link para mavisit ko din ang blog mo.


ahehe. salamat sa inyong pagcomment! :) god bless din!

darkhorse

the one tat got away - malay mo di yun pra tlga sayo o di mganda kpag kayo o kya mrami pang ibang reasons...complicated! Basta kung cno ksama mo sa present time yun ang d best!...tc

Dhianz

uy sis jho... kahit mejo bz akoh ngaun eh dumaan akoh sa blogsphere syempre ang adik na tulad koh eh di maiwasan ang di makibasa at magkomento... lolz... hmmmmnnzz... who got away in ur life sis jo???? hihheee... lolz... eniweiz... parang kinda song nung "JONI" u familiar w/ dat song?... da girl loves him so much... but he thought that she was still young for him... then umalis 'ung guy but the girls' words kept taunting him and he realized na mahal nyah ren itoh bat when he came back for her it was too late cuz she married his bestfriend John... luv dat song... nakakatuwa 'ung mga old songs noon kc may story to it... unlike 'ung mga ibang songs ngaun... specially 'ung mga masasakit sa tenga... walah akong maintindihan...sumasakit lang uloh koh... oh yeah kinda like da song too... "25 minutes too late"... "boy i miss ur kisses... all that time but this is... 25 minutes too late..." i guess ganon nga 'ung lyrics... so yeah... but... if he got away and then dumating sa point na married kah na and everythin'... i guess you have to let go and kc if God really meant you and that got away person to be together eh sana kayoh... or if not... maybe pag naging byudo at byuda kayo eh you'll finally meet again tapos maybe maging kayoh... hehe...ang yutakz koh naman tlgah minsan mag-isip eh noh... but itz possible... but siguro if da one who got away eh nde mawala sa isip moh eh siguro for sure sya 'ung mahal moh?... pero ba't kah nagpakasal?... ang layo nang tinatakbo nang yutakz koh... lolz... i dunno... wala na akong sagot... hehe... naguluhan na akoh... maybe dat got away person eh someone lang na dumaan sa buhay moh na parang hangin... i do believe kc parang everythin' happens for a reason.... unless na lang kaw ang nag-decided nang own path na itatake moh w/out God's guidance cuz we remember we have free will... we are free to do whatever we wanna do... kaya maraming tayong lost ngaun cuz we make our own decisions... unless we ask God for wat decision to make... related pa ren bah sinasabi koh sis jo... wehe... eniweiz napadaan... sige.. balik reality muna akoh... na-miss koh magkoment!... hehe... ingatz sis... *hugz*... GODBLESS! -di

jhosel

DH: complicated nga. depende kasi eh. kung may love ka. wag mo nang hayaan makawala pa ito. pero kung hindi talaga kayo pwede. wag nang pilitin pa. darating at darating din ang tamang THE ONE para sayo.

sis di: tama ka. dapat hayaan natin si GOD na gawin ang love story natin. ahay. namiss ko tong mahahabang comments mo. take care sis di!